The Big Gay Wedding Countdown

Your marriage is one of the most important days of your life and there is no hiding the fact that planning a wedding can be a stressful time! There is so much to think about from your ceremony to the reception and everything in between such as fashion, jewellery and wedding roles. The fun thing with gay marriage is that there are not necessarily any traditional set roles or guidelines to follow so you and partner can enjoy your special day the way that you want it.
Why not take the stress of the planning stage away and hand it over to one of our recommended gay wedding planners. All planners we work with are gay friendly and have successfully organised some amazing gay marriages at less cost than you may think. So go ahead and ask for a quote.

The Big Gay Wedding Countdown

Congratulations you’re engaged – so now what do we do?

Budget – agree what your wedding budget is and stick to it. □√

Wedding planner – consider if you want to work with an expert gay wedding planner or take control yourself. □√

Choose your wedding venue – if you plan to get married in your home country then go and visit some of the venues that take your fancy. See how friendly they are and ask if they have had gay weddings before. Check their guest capacity □√

Make an appointment with your local registry office to register your intentions for marriage □√

9 months to go

Theme – think about what theme you would like whether that be a particular colour scheme for your table decorations and accessories or the way that your guests dress. □√

Decide who your guests will be – start with close family and friends first and then look at extended family, friends and work colleagues. Don’t feel guilty about the people who do not make the list. □√

Book your photographer – Try to select a specialist wedding photographer and preferably one who has is comfortable with all things gay.□√

Book you wedding caterers – if you choose not to go with your wedding venues in-house caterers then shop around for quality and price. Get references. □√

Order your wedding stationary – you know how many guests you are inviting, don’t forget to add the venue address, local hotels, taxi numbers and dietary requirements. □√

Wedding Insurance – don’t leave things to chance. You are spending a lot of money on your wedding –can you afford for anything to go wrong?□√

Choose your wedding outfits – Check out our inspiration section and try to get an idea of what styles you like. Shop around –you will know when you find the right outfit no matter how long it takes!□√

Book your honeymoon – Along with your wedding day your honeymoon will be one of the most memorable times in your life so treat yourselves. □√

Gift list – writing your gift list is really exciting, you don’t have to go to a traditional department store guest list – think outside the box for adventure activities □√

Book your florist – you know your wedding theme so take advice from your florist and ask what types of flowers would suite your theme. Ask to see photo’s of previous wedding flower arrangements they have produced.□√

Pick your Wedding Cake – there some amazing wedding cakes and gay wedding cake toppers. Your cake can be a real focal point so shop around for ideas and inspiration □√

Band or DJ – DJ’s and bands get booked up quickly so confirm the date with them ASAP. □√

6 months to go

Vows – Choose your wedding vows or if you writing them yourself then start to pencil some ideas. □√

Transport – book your wedding transport. You do not need to book transport for everyone if your budget is tight so consider a car for just the brides or grooms □√

Annual Leave – don’t forget to book your holidays with work. Some employers will allow a day in addition to your annual leave quota □√

Buy outfit – you have shopped around enough - now its time to make a decision and buy your outfit. □√

Hair – consider what hair style will compliment your wedding outfit and ask your hairdresser for a trial run.□√

Send invitations - your guests may need to book time off work so give them as much notice as possible about the date □√

3 months to go

Discuss the menu with your caterers. Ask them what their options are and price tiers. Inform them of any special dietary requirements or allergies your guests may have. □√

Order wedding favours – you know your theme now choose your wedding favour to match. You can fill your favours with any treats you like from confectionary to lottery tickets.□√

Table plan – write your table plan of who will sit where. You will have a head table and guest’s tables to try to avoid sitting ex’s and their new partners next to each other. □√

Favourite songs for DJ or band – if you and your partner want some classic tunes playing at your wedding or you have a special song for your first dance then tell your DJ to make sure they have it or in the case of a band they may need to practise □√

1 month to go

Reconfirm arrangements with suppliers – it’s worth a quick phone call to all of your suppliers to check they haven’t forgotten about you.□√

Write speech – if you are planning on making a speech start jotting some ideas down now. Think about telling guests funny scenarios about the brides or grooms and also add in some tear jerking emotion about the special couple.□√

Try on outfit – you’ve bought your outfit now just make sure it still fits □√

Pick up wedding rings – collect your wedding rings and check them for size. Keep them in a safe place! □√

1 week to go

List of thank you’s for wedding day – you will feel very guilty if you forget to thank someone special on your wedding day so make a note of who you would like to make your thank you’s to.□√

Confirm final numbers – there will inevitably always be guests who pull out last minute and guests who suddenly get a new girlfriend or boyfriend and want to bring them along so re-confirm your numbers. □√

1 night to go

Sleep tight – get yourself a good nights sleep as you will be a very busy bee the next day. □√

The Big Day

Set your alarm early although you will probably be awake through excitement and nerves anyway. □√

Plenty of time – make sure you know what you have to do on the morning of your wedding and allow enough time for hair, make-up, fitting etc…□√

Try to relax – you will be nervous but that’s part of the fun. Stick with your partner and give each other support. □√

Enjoy and take it in – this is a one off day. Take everything in that you can, don’t worry about anything and be determined to enjoy it. □√

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